Good morning people who listen to the heart of those they speak to
Proverbs 18:13 NIV To answer before listening— that is folly and shame.
Many relational challenges can be traced back to a lack of proper listening, and the Bible says this is ‘folly and shame’.
The reality is, too many times, we hear but we don’t listen, and there is a big difference.
Hearing is the physical ability to perceive sounds. Many times, we ‘hear’ words, rather than ‘listen’ to both the words, and more importantly, the heart of the one speaking to us.
This verse highlights where we sometimes go wrong (I know this has too often been my problem). And that is, we are formulating our response while the other person is talking. In other words (and to be frank), we are more focused on what we want to say than on what the other person is saying and feeling.
I wonder if you will join me today in ‘listening better’. When someone is talking to you, listen to them; truly listen. Don’t just hear their words and be thinking about what you are going to say next – actually listen – and not just to their words, but to their heart. And then may we all be led by the Holy Spirit so that we can respond in a way that is truly best for the other person.