#2119 – A Fine Line

Good morning people who let the Holy Spirit lead

I believe there is a fine line between subtle, well-intentioned manipulation and control, and genuine love and concern. Let me explain.

When someone you love is in a place where they are making unwise life choices, we can often take on more responsibility for their change than God asks us to. Sure, we are responsible to them; to pray for them, to love them, to encourage them, and even to give wise counsel when it is invited or needed. But we are not responsible for them.

And this is where the subtle, well-intentioned manipulation and control can creep in. I know that many times I am so intent on people changing (because I love them and want the best for them), that I have taken on the role of the Holy Spirit. I have found myself using stories, Bible verses, situations, friends and family to bring about a change in their lives. I absolutely wanted the best for them, but I have at times crossed the line into thinking that what I say or do will bring the change.

Here’s the simple but profound truth today: The Holy Spirit is the One Who changes people’s lives, not us.

John 16:13 (NIV)But when He, the Spirit of truth, comes, He will guide you into all the truth. He will not speak on His own; He will speak only what He hears, and He will tell you what is yet to come.

Did you get that? It’s the Holy Spirit who will guide people into all truth – not us. Yes, the Holy Spirit can often use our lives and what we say to convey this truth, but it is still the Holy Spirit who brings revelation of that truth. It’s the Holy Spirit who changes people’s lives.

Let’s chat about this more tomorrow.